Monday, March 10, 2014

'I don't try to force it anymore!' Jennifer Lopez reveals she is not on a rush to the altar as she has given up of fairy tales

Since third time was not a charm, Jennifer Lopez will not be making her fourth trip down the aisle anytime soon.

The 44-year-old is in no rush to get married to boyfriend of almost three years, Beau 'Casper' Smart, despite confessing she hates to be alone.

Jennifer told the April issue of InStyle while it has been decades since she was single, she is not focused on becoming a Mrs again.

The singer told the magazine: 'In the past, love for me has always meant forever and sure you still nurse those fantasies, but I don't try to force it anymore.

'I hung on to my fairy tale ideals for a long time. But where I am now, what I've been through, there are no rules.

'There are lots of ways it can turn out instead of just one. There are so many different kinds of happiness, not just the one you learned about when you were five years old.'

JLo has been with her 27-year-old backup dancer since her divorce from Marc Anthony in 2011 and prior to that she has been married twice - to waiter Ojani Noa and dancer Cris Judd - and was also engaged to Ben Affleck.

The star candidly admits she has a history 'of rushing things or looking for comfort when things go wrong'.

In the revealing interview the mother of two - six-year-old twins Emme and Max - said she is trying to work out why she does not like to be alone.

'Look I don't love being alone. I don't. I can't beat myself up about that. What I have to do is figure out why I don't like it. Why am I not OK being alone? And can I be OK facing that?'

While being alone may be a struggle, the Jenny From The Block singer said she know knows what she wants from life and love.

'I've been through a lot of emotional ups and downs. But then you get to a point in life where it suddenly occurs to you that you don't need all the things you thought you once did - that's really, well, convoluted.

'My life feels overblown sometimes and I don't want it to be. I want it to be streamlined. So I'm living a much more unscripted life.'

Having children has also helped her try to slow down - despite still juggling a music career and clothing, homewares and perfume lines.

JLo told the magazine: 'Kids really focus you - it's primal. You come home and you're tired and they have no idea if you've had the greatest day or the roughest. ''Mommy, I don't care if your head hurts, I want to sit in your lap an eat food in your hair.'''

Learning from her mistakes has also had a big impact on her music JLo said, with her new album - her tenth - being about a very different kind of love.

'This album is tough. I used to be all ''I love you, hearts and flowers'' but now it's ''I love you but I am not going to let you take advantage of me''.

'There's a strength but there is also a humor. It's about being smarter about love - and not taking yourself so seriously.'

The album features her new single I Luv Ya Papi with French Montana, and its yet to be released video shows the 44-year-old looking as sexy as ever in an all-white ensemble.

The music superstar says while she may be getting older she sees it as a blessing both for her music and her life.

'I feel like I felt when I was 28. My bones don't hurt, I feel great.

'When I was in my twenties I wasn't sure of myself. Now I can really stretch. I don't have to stay in a box. At this point I can say to myself, ''So what if I fall, so what?'' I'm going to get back up.'

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